tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-44653225845506139602024-03-13T22:27:47.921-07:00hattonPatti Hattonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00682262620346098025noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4465322584550613960.post-84656097828419249772016-11-23T08:13:00.005-08:002016-11-23T08:13:58.463-08:00David says...<div class="MsoNormal" style="font-family: LucidaGrande; font-size: 14px; margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">
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<span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Rejoice evermore...Pray without ceasing...In every thing give thanks...for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you. 1 Thessalonians </span><a dir="ltr" href="x-apple-data-detectors://0" style="-webkit-text-decoration-color: rgba(31, 73, 125, 0.258824); background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);" x-apple-data-detectors-result="0" x-apple-data-detectors-type="calendar-event" x-apple-data-detectors="true">5:18</a></div>
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<i><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Live-Large...Talk with the Mighty-ONE all the time...Give Thanks Relentlessly...because GOD dispatched our Brother JC take the bullet meant for You. </span><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">1 Thessalonians </span><a dir="ltr" href="x-apple-data-detectors://0" style="-webkit-text-decoration-color: rgba(31, 73, 125, 0.258824); background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);" x-apple-data-detectors-result="0" x-apple-data-detectors-type="calendar-event" x-apple-data-detectors="true">5:18</a></i></div>
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<span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">I can think of no better verse on the eve of Thanksgiving than the one above. As we approach this holiday, I challenge you to consider ALL that God has done for you and to take the time to truly THANK Him. In VICTORY, or in tough circumstances, you and I MUST remember that it's God that gives us LIFE, with the ability to CHOOSE on what and on whom we truly depend. </span><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Choosing God first, is in fact, Thanking HIM.</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Most importantly, He sent His only Son to DIE that we might have life eternal, and real FREEDOM on earth while we're here. As a child of God, no matter what you face, the good, the bad, or the ugly, slow down, look up, and FIND the blessing in it; He ALWAYS has our BACKS, be confident of THAT!</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Finally, this holiday season can be a lonely time for many, so stay ALERT for those around you that NEED to START their relationship with God --- BE ready to share YOUR story of Faith --- which may actually be the greatest way to say Thank-You to our God.</span></div>
Patti Hattonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00682262620346098025noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4465322584550613960.post-15210932555653655152016-08-15T06:28:00.002-07:002016-08-15T08:41:45.463-07:00Feelings Follow our Thoughts<div class="" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; color: #111111; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; line-height: 25px; padding: 0px 0px 10px;">
I really like this - Feelings are a compass indicating what is happening in our thought life. Good feelings tell us our minds are being controlled by positive thoughts. </div>
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"Undesired thoughts are like birds that fly through our minds — don't try to prevent them from coming — just don't allow them to build a nest and stay! Keep them moving and <u class="">learn to quickly replace</u> them with desired thoughts.”</div>
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HAVE A GREAT DAY! David<br />
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When we practice NOT letting negative thoughts "make a nest", it's really an act of obedience, which aligns us with God --- that's our daily assignment --- Stay in Alignment --- He'll take it from there !</div>
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Patti Hattonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00682262620346098025noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4465322584550613960.post-53724443586225032982016-08-10T12:15:00.001-07:002016-08-10T12:15:10.934-07:00Allow God to Stir Your Heart <span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif; font-size: large;">The goal is to HONOR GOD in your marriage relationship. God wants you to honor Him by loving and respecting your spouse. If your spouse's behaviors do not kindle the desire in your heart to offer love, then ask the Lord to stir up in you the desire to love your spouse like he does. Offer yourself as a vessel unto the Lord so that God can love your spouse through your thoughts, attitude and actions.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif; font-size: large;">When your husband or wife looks at you, reflect back to him or her the magnificent creation that God made them to be. You will reap what you sow. <i>Patti</i></span><br />
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<span class="" style="font-size: medium;">There are many things in life about which we have <b class="">no choice</b> . . . our parents, our genetics code, the weather, the era in which we live, etc... </span></div>
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Patti Hattonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00682262620346098025noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4465322584550613960.post-36911275371964493142016-07-20T07:29:00.003-07:002016-07-20T07:29:57.297-07:00Who is Running Your Life?<div style="font-family: Helvetica; line-height: normal;">
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<i>David says: "We all spend a ton of time looking back saying, "God took care of this or that", we get a "warm fuzzy", but go right back to running our own lives, "tipping our hat" to God but not truly determined to get into alignment with Him, and seek to stay there. </i></div>
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Patti Hattonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00682262620346098025noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4465322584550613960.post-62792370426373784912016-03-14T06:45:00.001-07:002016-03-14T06:45:10.672-07:00Marriage Out of Alignment?<i><span style="font-size: large;">DAVID NOTES: The kinds of problems that bring couples to crisis aren’t always clear in the beginning. Think of an automobile that is out of alignment, having hit a pothole or a speed bump too fast. At first, it may just steer slightly to the right, but over time the right tires will begin to bald, and then unforeseen problems arise. When our marriages are out of alignment, they don’t perform well. Just like an automobile, marriages need consistent tuning, maintenance and care—sometimes you even need to consult with an expert to correct a problem! But it isn’t only the misaligned tires or the belts worn from every day use that benefit from our time and attention; the entire vehicle might be capable of performing in ways we never imagined. Imagine yourself behind the wheel of an exotic sports car. Would you know how to get peak performance and driving pleasure from the car without taking the time to learn and appreciate the performance “sweet spots?” Most likely, it would require training, expertise, and study of the design and operations manual—along with practice—to unleash the performance potential of the machine. Consider this little book an owner’s manual to the awesome potential within your marriage relationship.</span></i>Patti Hattonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00682262620346098025noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4465322584550613960.post-25020880184130823092016-03-02T07:52:00.000-08:002016-03-02T07:52:14.080-08:00 "God is good, and He is good at being God"<h3>
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<span style="font-family: LucidaGrande; font-size: 14px;">Faith is something that will never stop growing stronger in you as you continue and persevere at “walking” with Him. Faith is a muscle that strengthens with learning, adversity, sacrifice, and risk as you wisely obey His call and His direction. “Belief” in something is a heart/head knowledge and acceptance. Faith is ‘acting' on the promises and directives of the God who you “believe” in, and His Word that you “believe” in. It’s not just talking about your beliefs, but walking them out. Faith is active. It is acting like God is telling the truth…adapting your behavior, your decisions, and basically your whole lifestyle to what God has asked you to do. it often requires risk, but a risk that requires wisdom. We must know His truth to know how to step out in faith. The enemy is working overtime to keep you too busy or too fearful to take the risk. Don’t let him distract you. God is not worried about His reputation; you do not have to protect it; He is BIG enough to show off His glory and pour out His blessings as we walk with Him in faith, trusting He will do what He says He will do.</span><br />
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Faith does not control God. It doesn’t make God do something or not do something. It gives us “access" to what God has ALREADY intended to do for us! Faith does not focus on how strong “our belief" is, but it focuses on how trustworthy, true, and loyal <b class="">HE</b> is. It’s directed at and rooted in a “good God”. <b>"God is good, and He is good at being God"</b>. If you tend to struggle in moving forward in obedience to God and His word, you do not need “bigger" faith….you need a BIGGER God. Your level of faith will always be tied to your perception of God. We need an accurate and honest view of the faithfulness of our God. And we, as women especially, need to move forward in faith despite what our feelings tell us. Don’t let your feelings overshadow your level of faith. We must walk BY HIS WORD and not let the enemy confuse, distract, discourage, disappoint, and frighten us, thereby wearing us down and watering down what we know to be true. You can know by the way you ‘act’ whether or not you are walking out and taking up the shield of faith.</div>
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Patti Hattonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00682262620346098025noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4465322584550613960.post-86012847473537177222016-02-18T09:01:00.000-08:002016-02-18T09:01:15.246-08:00Our righteousness is not something we manufacture...<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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I like the “vibe” I get when I go into a Starbuck’s coffee
shop, or when I listen to certain music. Or said another way, I like what I
sense and experience about a Starbuck’s, and enjoy what I feel about that
certain music. Like the Beach Boys sing in their 1960s hit, “Good Vibrations”,
I pick up good vibrations.<o:p></o:p></div>
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We don’t just sense or feel places and people in our
environment; we also “vibrate” our own feelings that others around us
experience. And that “vibe” comes out of the beliefs we hold as truths.<o:p></o:p></div>
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If your spouse or children were to choose a ringtone that
describes the “vibe” you emanate, what would it be?<o:p></o:p></div>
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<b><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Verdana;">Psalm 139:23-24</span></i></b><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Verdana;">
(NIV)<b><o:p></o:p></b></span></i></div>
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<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Verdana;">Search me, God, and know my
heart;</span></i><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Courier;"> </span></i><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Verdana;">test me and know my anxious thoughts.<b><o:p></o:p></b></span></i></div>
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<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Verdana;">See if there is any
offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.</span><o:p></o:p></i></div>
<!--EndFragment-->Patti Hattonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00682262620346098025noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4465322584550613960.post-23601459511548501552011-07-15T13:07:00.000-07:002014-08-11T09:38:41.059-07:00Created For More – Consider the Emotions that you House<!--StartFragment--> <br />
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<span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue"; font-size: 11.0pt;">At a specific time in history, God purposefully used his mind, will and creative powers to fashion all of the intricate parts that make up your unique personality, hair color, ring finger size – everything. <i>Psalm 139:14</i></span><span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue"; font-size: 11.0pt;"> tells us that His works are wonderful and that WE KNOW it full well.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Each of us has an innate understanding that we house something unique and special with potential to do great things. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>We are made in the image of God and the distinctiveness in our makeup reflects His glory.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue"; font-size: 11.0pt;">In the Garden of Eden, before sin entered into the heart of man, Adam and Eve lived harmoniously with God and each other.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue"; font-size: 11.0pt;">But when sin entered into the heart of man, Adam and Eve were banished from the Garden of Eden, and congruence with God was interrupted. Man inherited a sinful nature within himself that causes him to wrestle between right and wrong, or good and evil.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue"; font-size: 11.0pt;">Transformation of a man’s heart occurs when man is reconciled with God through Jesus Christ and confronts his sinful nature by yielding his will to the leadership of the Holy Spirit.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue"; font-size: 11.0pt;">Man was designed to live in harmony with God. But man’s sin has thrust him outside that harmony, into living with his own sinful nature, creating confusion about how to meet his own needs. This neediness causes man to act out in harmful ways, resulting in pain and heartache for self and others. If your heart could speak, would it reveal any pain or confusion about self, or the meaning of life?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue"; font-size: 11.0pt;">Emotional wounds and the lies attached to those wounds can prevent a person from: <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue"; font-size: 11.0pt;">Knowing the true self because of a false self or false set of beliefs <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue"; font-size: 11.0pt;">Taking risks and growing to become all that Christ intends <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue"; font-size: 11.0pt;">Living in the moment and experiencing the wonder and joy of life <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue"; font-size: 11.0pt;">Making a difference and contributing to society and the kingdom of God <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue"; font-size: 11.0pt;">Life as God intends for His Creation <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue"; font-size: 11.0pt;">The Lord wants to kill the man of sin inside your heart. He wants to KILL sin just like a cancer patient wants to kill the cancer cells. Kill is a strong word that means to end life. We have to first become aware of the emotional cancer cells in our hearts and then be willing to do WIT, “whatever it takes” to kill them; it requires work to expose the wounds in our hearts (and the false messages attached to them) to enable our replacing the lies with God’s truth. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue"; font-size: 11.0pt;">That work is a battle in your heart to kill sin, but until you can SEE it, you will not treat it. A person does not receive treatment for cancer if there is nothing to indicate its presence. But when the cancer manifests itself through symptoms, that person takes immediate action to establish a treatment plan.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue"; font-size: 11.0pt;">Physical cancer is a menace that no one wants to face. The word “cancer” captures a person’s attention, and creates the willingness to do WIT, <i>“whatever it takes”</i></span><span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue"; font-size: 11.0pt;"> to get rid of it. Physical cancer is to the body as unhealed emotional wounds are to the heart: untreated emotional wounds lead to spiritual death just like untreated cancer causes physical death. A prudent person has regular checkups to make sure cancerous division and multiplication is not ravaging his/her body. God tells us to DAILY allow His Holy Spirit to inspect our hearts, to see if there is anything that is displeasing to Him, and to see if there is any lie in our heart caused by an emotional wound that is robbing us of <b><i>His glory</i></b></span><span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue"; font-size: 11.0pt;"> and truth. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue"; font-size: 11.0pt;">However, people live for years with depression, unsatisfying relationships, internal pain and suffering, and will go to huge lengths to hide these symptoms either out of fear of being discovered as “less than or not enough”, or simply lack of knowledge about how to be set free from internal pain. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue"; font-size: 11.0pt;">Keeping emotional pain at bay is like trying to keep a beach ball submerged under water; it takes constant energy and will never succeed. But, when exposed - or brought into the light - that pain or darkness will lose its power. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue"; font-size: 11.0pt;">In Rick Warren’s book, The Purpose Driven Life, he says, “we were created by God and for God and until you figure that out, life isn’t going to make sense.”<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue"; font-size: 11.0pt;">Our lives here on earth are about being restored to man’s original state of innocence and embracing our distinctiveness to bring glory to God.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>We can certainly experience joy and happy times on earth, but God’s ultimate goal is to remake us into His image, allowing us to step into the glory for which we were created, to experience and have the influence He always intended.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Nothing can possibly be more satisfying than returning to who we were created to be, and living from that place in intimate relationship with the Lord.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>As we confess Jesus Christ as Lord of our lives, our hearts become burdened for those who are lost without an eternal vision or purpose; part of our purpose is to show them God’s love and provision.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue"; font-size: 11.0pt;">There are two primary forces that inspire change in our lives:<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>pain and vision.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It is against our nature to experience pain (makes sense) and we will do whatever we can to find relief.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>We also are motivated to change through vision, seeing something that appeals to us or gives our lives meaning, purpose or pleasure, and will move us to attain it.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>These two phenomena are always active in our lives - responding to vision and managing pain.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Rick Warren explains it this way, “I used to think that life was hills and valleys - you go through a dark time, then you go to the mountaintop, back and forth.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I don’t believe that anymore.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Rather than life being hills and valleys, I believe that it’s kind of like two rails on a railroad track, and at all times you have something good and something bad in your life.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>No matter how good things are in your life, there is always something bad that needs to be worked on.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>And no matter how bad things are in your life, there is always something good you can thank God for.”<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue"; font-size: 11.0pt;">Healthy individuals understand that life is a process of responding to challenges that will develop greater character, usually involving pain.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>We are all familiar with the adage, “no pain, no gain.”<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Another aspect of growth is dealing with negative emotions that have been repressed from the past.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Children are not responsible for, and do not know how to process pain from their childhood; many times this pain is contained in the body until maturity enables processing it.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Much like a cyst encapsulates foreign matter in the body, humans have tendencies to fragment and encapsulate emotions. Those protected emotions are submerged into the subconscious so they can continue with their lives (essentially, this is a survival technique).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It takes energy to keep past memories submerged and over time, this can cause a person to experience depression and other emotional health issues.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue"; font-size: 11.0pt;">Denying that your heart has been wounded (and will continue to be wounded by imperfect people in an imperfect world) is like saying you are invincible. In fact, you have the same needs as anyone else and will suffer when your needs are overlooked, criticized, thwarted, etc.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Part of your responsibility as an adult is to learn what your needs are and take responsibility for getting them met.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>A child does not have the sophistication to mentally articulate his or her needs or have the understanding or ability to meet them.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Even the best parents miss the mark in meeting all their child’s needs because we are all limited in this ability.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue"; font-size: 11.0pt;">The Lord makes provision for the process of unraveling negative emotions; He exhorts us to allow the Holy Spirit to regularly search our heart and bring those bruised places into the light so they can be healed.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Our tendency is to deny that we have hurts in our hearts because we somehow surmise that admitting our pain and neediness makes us substandard or less than others who “seem to have it all together.”<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Healthy individuals see the process of honestly assessing themselves as a slice of the pie chart that represents the complete self.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>They don’t allow themselves to drown in self pity and morbid self absorption, but they do “deal with” the weak parts of themselves and the hurting parts, which pleases God and allows them to <b>reach resolution</b></span><span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue"; font-size: 11.0pt;">.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<div class="MsoNormal"><span style="color: navy; font-family: "Helvetica Neue"; font-size: 11.0pt;">A true story.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="color: navy; font-family: "Helvetica Neue"; font-size: 11.0pt;">My husband and I inadvertently walked in on a telephone conversation at our daughter’s private school; it was between a teacher and a parent. The teacher indicated we should stay, but the part of the discussion we heard, and the expressions on her face led us to believe the subject was so unbelievable that we had to ask about it.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="color: navy; font-family: "Helvetica Neue"; font-size: 11.0pt;">Hesitantly, (without revealing the identity of the caller) she confirmed our suspicions that a parent of a child entering Pre-Kindergarten was asking about the best extracurricular activities – to engage in now – to promote the child’s achieving the highest possible SAT scores.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="color: navy; font-family: "Helvetica Neue"; font-size: 11.0pt;">We grimaced and none of us shared what we were really thinking.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It would have been disrespectful to the teacher and caller.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="color: navy; font-family: "Helvetica Neue"; font-size: 11.0pt;">However, I thought it bizarre that a parent would be seeking opportunities for a pre-schooler that would ultimately result in the highest possible scores for college entrance exams.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-outline-level: 1;"><span style="color: navy; font-family: "Helvetica Neue"; font-size: 11.0pt;">Was this the unspoken fantasy?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="color: navy; font-family: "Helvetica Neue"; font-size: 11.0pt;"><i>My child will have <o:p></o:p></i></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="color: navy; font-family: "Helvetica Neue"; font-size: 11.0pt;"><i>the best possible advantages at all times,<o:p></o:p></i></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="color: navy; font-family: "Helvetica Neue"; font-size: 11.0pt;"><i>to receive the best instruction, coaching, tutoring,<o:p></o:p></i></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="color: navy; font-family: "Helvetica Neue"; font-size: 11.0pt;"><i>whatever it takes to make the highest possible scores,<o:p></o:p></i></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="color: navy; font-family: "Helvetica Neue"; font-size: 11.0pt;"><i>to gain entrance into the top universities,<o:p></o:p></i></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="color: navy; font-family: "Helvetica Neue"; font-size: 11.0pt;"><i>where they will join the best sororities or fraternities,<o:p></o:p></i></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="color: navy; font-family: "Helvetica Neue"; font-size: 11.0pt;"><i>to make the most important and influential friends,<o:p></o:p></i></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="color: navy; font-family: "Helvetica Neue"; font-size: 11.0pt;"><i>which will help them land the best possible job positions,<o:p></o:p></i></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="color: navy; font-family: "Helvetica Neue"; font-size: 11.0pt;"><i>to ensure that they receive the most superb opportunities,<o:p></o:p></i></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="color: navy; font-family: "Helvetica Neue"; font-size: 11.0pt;"><i>to make the most money and receive the highest notorieties,<o:p></o:p></i></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="color: navy; font-family: "Helvetica Neue"; font-size: 11.0pt;"><i>so they can live the best life possible with power, prestige and influence</i></span><span style="color: navy; font-family: "Helvetica Neue"; font-size: 11.0pt;">. <o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
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</div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="color: navy; font-family: "Helvetica Neue"; font-size: 11.0pt;">Did this parent really feel the weight of responsibility to make those things happen for their Pre-K child?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="color: navy; font-family: "Helvetica Neue"; font-size: 11.0pt;">Did they not believe in a Sovereign God that specially and intricately knit their child together in their mother’s womb with distinct God-given gifts and abilities that were decided before conception? <b>(Psalm 139</b></span><span style="color: navy; font-family: "Helvetica Neue"; font-size: 11.0pt;">) <o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="color: navy; font-family: "Helvetica Neue"; font-size: 11.0pt;">Why were they electing to send their child to a Christian school if they did not trust God to open and close doors on behalf of the welfare of the child and guide and direct their lives? <b>(Proverbs 3:4-5)</b></span><span style="color: navy; font-family: "Helvetica Neue"; font-size: 11.0pt;"> <o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="color: navy; font-family: "Helvetica Neue"; font-size: 11.0pt;">Was it to increase the opportunities for their child to receive love and nurture from teachers and staff that were gullible enough to embrace this notion?<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="color: navy; font-family: "Helvetica Neue"; font-size: 11.0pt;">Bryan Caplan says in his new book, <u>Selfish Reasons to Have More Kids: Why Being a Great Parent is Less Work and More Fun Than You Think</u>, “Parents take it upon themselves to constantly entertain and "enrich" their kids with a course-catalog of activities (Capoeira, violin, Mandarin lessons) in a desperate effort to give them ‘the best’ and set them on the path to a triumphant adulthood.”<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Caplan sees the world differently and believes that parenting does not play such an important role in determining a child’s destiny in life, rather that genetics or nature trumps the efforts and influence of the parents.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="color: navy; font-family: "Helvetica Neue"; font-size: 11.0pt;">Conversely, Amy Chua, author of the highly controversial book, <u>The Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mom</u>,<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>purports that tiger mother's cubs who are being parented “the Chinese way” with high demands to perform well are being raised to rule the world, while the offspring of "weak-willed," "indulgent" Westerners are growing up ill-equipped to compete in a fierce global marketplace. <o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
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</div><div class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Goals harness and order the energy required to follow the associated structured activities that will result in achieving those goals. Sharing a goal with your mate can be a wonderful way to connect and invest in personal and couple growth and avoid the boredom and monotony of aimless efforts that can often result in fussing and disagreements.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Why not set aside some time or better yet, plan a weekend away when you and your spouse can dream and discuss goals that you would like to pursue together and individually. <o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
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</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left: .5in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .5in; text-indent: -.25in;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">1)</span><span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"> </span></span></span><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Be specific.</span></b><span style="font-weight: normal;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"> Instead of saying, “We will learn to play tennis, be specific and say: “We’ll spend 30 minutes a day hitting balls three times a week and take a tennis lesson on Sunday afternoons at the Tennis Club.” The goal now expresses not only a desire, but the means to accomplish it.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left: .5in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .5in; text-indent: -.25in;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">2)</span><span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"> </span></span></span><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Be realistic.</span></b><span style="font-weight: normal;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"> Consider your time and resources and set goals that you can accomplish and feel good about. If you make them too easy, they will be meaningless and if you make them impossible to obtain, you will lose heart and become discouraged. Strive to create positive versus negative energy!<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left: .5in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .5in; text-indent: -.25in;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">3)</span><span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"> </span></span></span><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Include a way to measure your success.</span></b><span style="font-weight: normal;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"> A good goal will answer the questions of what, how, and when; it’s measurable. Instead of saying, “We will learn new recipes and cook meals together, say: we will research recipes online and find a mutually agreeable one, grocery shop together at Whole Foods and cook together on the first Saturday evening of each month.” <o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left: .5in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .5in; text-indent: -.25in;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">4)</span><span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"> </span></span></span><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Think short-term and long-term.</span></b><span style="font-weight: normal;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"> Short-term goals (cleaning one closet a week) allows us to experience success at smaller intervals while working toward long-term goals (de-cluttering an entire house.)<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left: .5in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .5in; text-indent: -.25in;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">5)</span><span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"> </span></span></span><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Review periodically and be flexible.</span></b><span style="font-weight: normal;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"> Goals are the defined destination of a journey. If you don’t know where you are going, guess what? You are already there! Remind yourself that life is a journey, and developing a </span></span><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">passion for the process</span></b><span style="font-weight: normal;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"> is the key to embracing and enjoying each day and learning to live in the moment. Priorities arise that will take precedence over structure you have established to accomplish a goal, which may require taking a detour, adjusting expectations or putting a goal on hold for a while. Utilize the power of prayer when setting daily priorities, which will result in </span></span><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">PRAYORITIES</span></b><span style="font-weight: normal;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">, which will keep you in line with your dreams and the heart desires of God.</span><o:p></o:p></span></div><!--EndFragment-->Patti Hattonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00682262620346098025noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4465322584550613960.post-4222144463019179572011-04-24T17:56:00.000-07:002011-04-24T17:56:56.749-07:00Got Happiness? (4)<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #666666; font-family: 'Georgia Italic';">Much research has been done to determine the causes of mental health issues such as depression, bi-polar disorder, mania, etc., but fewer studies have focused on what causes a person to be happy. Henry Cloud authored <i>The Laws of Happiness, </i></span><span style="color: #666666; font-family: 'Georgia Italic';">which highlights the life principles of people who experience higher levels of well-being and happiness. This article summarizes one law of happiness.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #666666; font-family: 'Georgia Italic';"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #666666; font-family: 'Georgia Italic';"> </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #666666; font-family: 'Georgia Italic';"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Happy people </span><b><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">pursue goals. </span></i></b></span><span style="color: #666666; font-family: 'Georgia Italic';"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Goals help order our time and energy, promote growth and the hope of things to come. The way to accomplish a big goal is to break it down into little goals. What small, specific and measurable thing or things do I need to accomplish today that will work toward my end desire? Cloud encourages us to consider how we get to the end of a day able to know “today was a good day!” What needs to occur during the day to make that happen?<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #666666; font-family: 'Georgia Italic';"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Getting in touch with our heart’s desires is key to setting goals. Sometimes, like a child digging around in a toy box for a favorite toy, we have to rummage through our thoughts and life experiences to discover goals that when achieved will satisfy and fill our hearts with joy.</span><o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><br />
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</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #666666; font-family: 'Georgia Italic';">Much research has been done to determine the causes of mental health issues such as depression, bi-polar disorder, mania, etc., but fewer studies have focused on what causes a person to be happy. Henry Cloud authored <i>The Laws of Happiness, </i></span><span style="color: #666666; font-family: 'Georgia Italic';">which highlights the life principles of people who experience higher levels of well-being and happiness. This article summarizes one of those laws.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #666666; font-family: 'Georgia Italic';"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #666666; font-family: 'Georgia Italic';"> </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #666666; font-family: 'Georgia Italic';"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Happy people </span><b><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">don’t compare themselves. </span></i></b></span><span style="color: #666666; font-family: 'Georgia Italic';"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Using another person’s performance to judge personal worth is unhealthy and sinful. There is nothing wrong with observing a person and emulating their behavior for the purpose of learning and growing. However, when we beat ourselves up because another person does something or has something that we want, we are wasting our precious time and energy. Those types of comparisons and negative self-talk zap our energy and cause depression. We will receive a performance review at the end of our lives and it is our gifts that will be evaluated to determine whether we embraced, developed and used them to make a difference in God’s Kingdom and in the lives of others. </span><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Galations 6:4-5</span></b></span><span style="color: #666666; font-family: 'Georgia Italic';"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"> -Pay careful attention to your own work, for then you will get the satisfaction of a job well done, and you won’t need to compare yourself to anyone else. For we are each responsible for our own conduct.</span><o:p></o:p></span></div>Patti Hattonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00682262620346098025noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4465322584550613960.post-69238705377587083072011-04-05T07:41:00.000-07:002011-04-05T07:41:02.311-07:00Talk Love!<a href="http://www.5lovelanguages.com/learn-the-languages/the-five-love-languages/"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">The Five Love Languages</span></a><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"> </span>(click for website)<br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://lh4.googleusercontent.com/-74suPw2rPdI/TW0IcXmZZ2I/AAAAAAAAAEI/_Tw3DSBqPnE/s1600/IMG_1351.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="240" src="https://lh4.googleusercontent.com/-74suPw2rPdI/TW0IcXmZZ2I/AAAAAAAAAEI/_Tw3DSBqPnE/s320/IMG_1351.JPG" width="320" /></a></div><div style="font: 12.0px Times; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><br />
</span></span></div><div style="font: 12.0px Times; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">My Favorite Things</span></span></div><div style="font: 12.0px Times; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px; text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><br />
</span></span></div><div style="font: 12.0px Times; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;"><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"> </span></span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">About ten years ago, when our daughters were school-aged children and their activity schedules drove our lives, I began to miss the times when David and I did things that were couple oriented.</span></span></div><div style="font: 12.0px Times; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><br />
</span></span></div><div style="font: 12.0px Times; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;"><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"> </span></span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">One day as I was shopping at Central Market, I noticed an advertisement for a gumbo-cooking contest. I harassed David until he conceded and agreed to enter the contest with me. We selected several cookbooks from Louisiana and started reading the recipes to identify the ones with ingredients we thought would make the best gumbo.</span></span></div><div style="font: 12.0px Times; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><br />
</span></span></div><div style="font: 12.0px Times; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;"><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"> </span></span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Over about a three-week period we tried four different recipes. I was convinced that okra was the secret ingredient to a really great tasting gumbo and David’s opinion differed. So we prepared our original recipe partly with okra and partly without, poured it into Tupperware containers and headed to the tasting kitchen at Central Market to win the Blue Ribbon.</span></span></div><div style="font: 12.0px Times; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><br />
</span></span></div><div style="font: 12.0px Times; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;"><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"> </span></span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">It was fun to have a focus for our date nights and to cook something together with the purpose of perfecting it and making it our own family recipe. We were dumbfounded when our gumbo was not selected as the winner and decided that Texans do not have the same discernment that those native to Louisiana possess. </span></span></div><div style="font: 12.0px Times; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><br />
</span></span></div><div style="font: 12.0px Times; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;"><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"> </span></span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">The Hatton Family Gumbo is among the best in the country (at least we think so) and is definitely going into “my favorite things” album. It always tastes the best when David does the laborious job of making the roux; you can see from the photo that he cooks it until just before the burning point, which gives it a rich, smoky flavor. </span></span></div><div style="font: 12.0px Times; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><br />
</span></span></div><div style="font: 12.0px Times; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;"><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"> </span></span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">What can you intentionally do with your spouse to create a fun memory? Any suggestions?</span></span></div>Patti Hattonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00682262620346098025noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4465322584550613960.post-53893179403937226192011-02-26T13:09:00.001-08:002011-03-01T21:26:12.800-08:00Leave and Cleave<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen='allowfullscreen' webkitallowfullscreen='webkitallowfullscreen' mozallowfullscreen='mozallowfullscreen' width='320' height='266' src='https://www.blogger.com/video.g?token=AD6v5dzRBBNWS0NQR_fRLPik9S1okkl6u1sFjVjxdzcR-tmi1k7tQRTOpZOV2X1oK3CWL0r1DA4sAquWzVtmjBY_Og' class='b-hbp-video b-uploaded' frameborder='0'></iframe></div><br />
<div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica Neue Light; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Launching Your Adult Child</span></span></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica Neue Light; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 15.0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><br />
</span></span></div><div style="font: 11.0px Helvetica Neue Light; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">After watching this 2-1/2 minute movie preview of </span></span><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Meet the Fockers</span></span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">, determine which parent does the best job of modeling the ‘launching process’ of their adult child.</span></span></div><div style="font: 11.0px Helvetica Neue Light; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 13.0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><br />
</span></span></div><div style="font: 11.0px Helvetica Neue Light; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Is it Robert de Niro, who warns against getting a </span></span><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">chink in the chain</span></span></i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">?</span></span></div><div style="font: 11.0px Helvetica Neue Light; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Or is it Dustin Hoffman, who clearly has a separate identity and charming life of his own? </span></span><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">(We can talk about his lack of boundaries another time.)</span></span></i></div><div style="font: 11.0px Helvetica Neue Light; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 12.0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><i></i></span></span></div><div style="font: 11.0px Helvetica Neue Light; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Robert de Niro plays the role of a father who expects his adult children to naturally conform to </span></span><span style="font: normal normal normal 11px/normal 'Helvetica Neue';"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">his </span></span></b></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">values and ideals, despite the reality that God has granted freedom for adults to make their own choices and decisions, and to experience the corresponding consequences.</span></span></div><div style="font: 11.0px Helvetica Neue Light; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 13.0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><br />
</span></span></div><div style="font: 11.0px Helvetica Neue; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; text-align: center;"><b><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">An adult is one who is willing and able to accept complete responsibility for self.</span></span></i></b></div><div style="font: 11.0px Helvetica Neue; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 13.0px;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><i></i></span></span></b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><br />
</span></span></div><div style="font: 11.0px Helvetica Neue Light; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Dr. James Dobson states two reasons parents are reluctant to step out of the parental authority role:</span></span></div><div style="font: 11.0px Helvetica Neue Light; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 36.0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">1. they fear their children aren’t ready to stand on their own, so they want to protect them from harm and failure,</span></span></div><div style="font: 11.0px Helvetica Neue Light; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 72.0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">or,</span></span></div><div style="font: 11.0px Helvetica Neue Light; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 36.0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">2. they hate to see childhood come to an end.</span></span></div>Patti Hattonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00682262620346098025noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4465322584550613960.post-21055249344836037032011-02-17T12:38:00.000-08:002011-02-17T12:38:32.472-08:00A Memorable ValentineAnswering a telephone call before my first sip of coffee in the morning is a stretch for me, but this morning was Valentine’s Day and the caller ID showed it was my mother calling. I clicked on ‘answer’ and mustered up my best, although slightly trite salutation of “good morning, Mother.”<br />
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I had not talked to her in a while, so despite my early morning funk, I was happy to hear her voice. We chatted about my daughter’s recent activities and I heard updates about a house renovation she is working on and the activities of my niece and nephew. I was happy to hear that she was staying busy with her real estate job and had recently sold several properties. <br />
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This is such good news in light of the loss she experienced just over a year ago. My dad, her husband of 55 years went to be with the Lord after having battled cancer for several years. The final year he was pretty much bed ridden and her life slowed to a near standstill as she cared for him around the clock. I never heard her complain and knew she considered it a privilege to be the one to assist him in his final days on earth - this faithful and hard working man who devoted his life to loving and caring for her and his family. Toward the end of his life, when she had to get help to maneuver him physically, I begged her to get hospice to take over but she resisted until the very last two days of his life. (If you are doing the math and wondering how my Mother achieved these stressful feats physically, she is ten years younger than my dad.)<br />
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Holidays are always challenging for those who have recently lost a loved one, so I was expecting to reminisce with Mother about the jewelry Dad would have picked out for her on past Valentine’s Days, or the lovely bouquet of flowers he was always faithful to deliver. But our conversation stayed focused on the busyness of our lives.<br />
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Then almost as an afterthought, she told me that she had gone out to get the paper at 6:30 a.m. as always and saw Mark, her neighbor. Mark was a regular visitor during Dad’s bedridden days. Mother and Dad both looked forward to his visits because he was loud, rather gruff and always had a story to tell that made you feel like you had just paid money to see a Paramount Picture Show. I think my dad represented a father figure to Mark and that their admiration of one another was mutual.<br />
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Anyway, Mother didn’t see her newspaper, and Mark yelled to her from across the street that her paper was by the front door. She walked around the corner and there on top of the newspaper were a dozen red roses. Her voice began to break as she tried to read me the note he left, and I couldn’t make out her words. All I heard was that he signed off as “your pecan-pie loving friend.”<br />
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The love my father and mother experienced together through service and devotion to one another left an indelible mark on all who knew them. How sweet and enduring is the power of love, having tender affection and compassion for another. The richness that comes from years of devoted commitment to another is indeed the best thing this life has to offer.<br />
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That love was the inspiration for Mark to buy a beautiful bouquet of roses to place on my mother’s doorstep on Valentine’s morning. He knew there was no greater way to <i>honor my father than to bless his Valentine</i> during his absence, and in so doing it was almost as if the sentiment was not from Mark, but from my father himself. It sent a powerful message to my mother's heart.<br />
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Later I called and she told me that these were the words written on the card:<br />
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For my special friend,<br />
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Some gifts you hold in your hand and some you hold in your heart<br />
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Your friendship makes my life sweeter and my heart very glad,<br />
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Your pecan-pie loving friend, Mark (my mother makes pecan pies for Mark)<br />
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Who can you bless today with an act of kindness? Ask God to show you someone who needs encouragement or a helping hand and realize the power you have to use your time and resources to make a real difference in someone’s day. Make your day special. Make your life count.Patti Hattonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00682262620346098025noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4465322584550613960.post-14605986425124738482011-01-31T10:17:00.000-08:002011-01-31T10:18:24.778-08:00Cultivating Gratitude<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br />
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<div class="" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">In 1959, Rodgers and Hammerstein composed “My Favorite Things” as one of the songs for their Broadway production “The Sound of Music”. The 1965 movie put that song into the realm of ‘songs everyone knows’. Recently, Oprah Winfrey used the theme of “My Favorite Things” to gift her studio audience with the items she cited as her favorite picks of the year.</span></div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_2AtdsuIP5Ys/TUbtujYQAQI/AAAAAAAAACY/v04EKOWd_KY/s1600/IMG_0467.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="250" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_2AtdsuIP5Ys/TUbtujYQAQI/AAAAAAAAACY/v04EKOWd_KY/s400/IMG_0467.jpg" width="400" /></a></div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">This prompted me to consider what things, events, circumstances, etc. stir my heart; what ‘favorite things’ do I look forward to seeing or experiencing each year?</span></span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">So to create greater sense of personal awareness about myself, and to cultivate a spirit of gratitude and appreciation, I decided to create a keepsake book of my favorite things. My book includes photographs and commentary about those things that bring me joy. My hope is that this book will inspire my children to notice blessings in their own lives, and give them and my future grandchildren an opportunity to know their mother and grandmother better.</span></span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Grateful for the Art of Life</span></span><br />
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</a><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">There are many beautiful trees that deserve recognition, but there is one that especially stands out to me. Fall always brings special refreshment to Texas after a long and hot summer. This tree is the most captivating to me when the sun is shining brightly, the air is dry and crisp and the temperature is hovering around the mid 60s. The leaves look like they are shimmering as they dance in the wind.</span></span><br />
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